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The Kept Woman

I have never seen the benefits of being a kept woman.

Back in the day when I was a kid my mom was a housewife. Her day was filled with cooking, cleaning, and dealing with six kids and my dad. She was not allowed to spend money without my dad’s permission, was told what to do, and when to do it. If she disagreed with him, he hit her or verbally degraded her.

And because of what I saw as a kid, I made a resolution to never be a housewife, or what is now called a stay at home mom. I am too dependent and strong willed.

Hence, I have always worked and made my own money. I’ve never had to depend upon any man for my livelihood. Even when I had my son and daughter, I went back to work as soon as possible.

Over my lifetime, I had two men who said they would take care of me. They wanted me to quit my job so I would be there for them all the time. When I refused, they dumped me.

Of course, they had no problem finding women who complied with their demands.

Throughout my life I’ve had friends who were kept women. And like my mom, I heard how my friend’s husbands controlled the money, and how they couldn’t do this and that. Eventually, most of my friend’s divorced their husbands.

And even though women have celebrated advances in their independence, education, and careers… I’ve notice those same women will quit working to stay home with the kids or…

They don’t want to work but instead want to be home for their man. Oh please.

When I hear that I ask the woman ‘what if your man wanted you to work so he could stay home?’

“I would never be with a lazy man like that.”

“Bingo.”

Now of course, there will be the kept women out there who will argue I’m wrong. They will claim that their man lets them spend whatever money they want and that they get to do what they want.

Sorry, but whoever makes the money is the one in control. The women who claim the aforementioned are fooling themselves because their boyfriend or husband is allowing it. As soon as the woman no longer serves their man’s purpose, the money will be cut off.

That’s when the women end up calling a lawyer to get their fair share. Of course, the man knows how to hide his money and the battle is on.

But instead of continuing on with my opinions, I shall allow the kept women to think and be who they are… For in the end they will have to deal with what choices they have made.

Myself, I praise God and his spiritual team for giving me the wisdom I need to live the life I want.

 

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Make it Short & Sweet

In the past when I have submitted manuscripts to literary agents, I had no idea how to write a query letter. As a result it ended up as a two page rambling with unnecessary minutia.

Of course, I ended up with the standard rejection email or letter on the agencies letterhead.

So I did research and discovered a query letter can only be one page. Anything longer and it doesn’t get read.

Now recently I finished my Seven Degrees of Drama manuscript and have once again will start the process of submitting to literary agents. Only this time my query letter is one page and under 300 words. This count includes the greeting, closing, and contact info.

And because I like helping people, I’m sharing the body of my short and sweet query letter below. Hope you find it useful.

 

I would like to submit my fiction book, Seven Degrees of Drama, a contemporary story about the non-stop dysfunctional drama that occurs in Sarah’s life, for your consideration. Seven Degrees of Drama is 43,956 words long.

Sarah is drowning in never ending drama at home and work. There’s her unhappy marriage to Joe, an indifferent alcoholic who always has a can of beer in his hand… She deals with an abusive father who calls her a whore… A narcissist father-in-law propositions Sarah to have an affair and when he’s spurned, seeks revenge… A jealous brother and sister in-law who finds everything wrong with Sarah and uses it against her… The condescending, neurotic, and cruel postal managers and co-workers who create a hostile work environment giving a new meaning to ‘going postal’… The charming narcissist lover’s who take what they want, and then leave… But despite the physical and emotional pain and drama, Sarah has her true friends and prevails in her own sweet spiritual victories of Karmatic revenge.

I have self published five other books, Clicking for Cash from Home, The Adult Coloring Book featuring Cats Romance, Angels & Flowers, Our Spiritual Awakening, Pink Kitty’s Friendly Tales, and The Cat Chat forum. They are currently available on Amazon. My web sites are: http://clickingforcashfromhome.com/ and https://lauralsmithwriterandillustrator.wordpress.com/

Thank you for your consideration. I look forward to hearing from you soon.

 

12 Things to do to be Happy

  1. Wake up every morning and thank God for all the blessings you have in your life.
  2. Have gratitude for everything every day.
  3. Know that you are never alone. God, your angels, ascended masters, and guides are always with you.
  4. Stop complaining and blaming everything and everyone for how your life is.
  5. Let go of the past, forgive those who have hurt you, and forgive yourself.
  6. Think and wish the best for everyone around you.
  7. Make sure you do something everyday just for yourself.
  8. If you hate your job, it’s time to move on and do what is needed to find one you will enjoy doing.
  9. Be responsible for who you are.
  10. Love and like who you are so you are able to enjoy your own company and the peace it brings.
  11. Stop associating with negative people who say mean and cruel things about you and…
  12. Don’t let what negative people say bother you.

Why You Need Advance Directives

An advance directive is a written document of a person’s wishes regarding medical treatment to ensure those wishes are carried out should the person be unable to communicate them to a doctor or medical staff.

However, most people don’t have advance directives. After all when people are in good health they’re not expecting to have a sudden stroke, or other types of permanent life changing accidents…

Much less ending up in long term care on a ventilator, or with an air tube over a trach or having a Percutaneous Endoscopic Gastrostomy (PEG) tube surgically inserted through the abdominal wall into the stomach so liquid nutritional supplements can be feed constantly through them.

And even if a person doesn’t want to be kept alive, a.k.a DNR (do not resuscitate) by mechanical means if there’s no hope of recovery…

They need to put their wishes in writing and have it notarized or their spouse or adult children will have the right to deem their loved one a full code.

A full code means that all life saving procedures must be done by the hospital staff to keep the patient alive.

Now you may be thinking that my spouse or kids know what I want and they would follow through with my wishes…

However, you might want to rethink that mindset because…

Due to my experience working as a nursing assistant (NA) in a critical care specialty hospital…

I found the closer people get to death, the family keeps them a full code because they can’t let go of their loved ones.

And let me say it is so sad to take care of both young and old people with no hope of recovery. As a NA my job was to reposition the patient every two hours to prevent bedsores, wash them, and change their soiled briefs or adult diapers several times a day.

And because of the patient’s compromised immune system and constant of immobility, many of these patients had clostridium difficile colitis (c-diff), bedsores, ventilator associate pneumonia, and other co-morbidities.

These issues overtime, tend to weaken the patient’s heart and that is when they start having cardiac codes.

So when the patient goes into PEA (pulse less electrical activity), it’s usually the nursing assistant (NA) or RN who starts CPR. (Fortunately, I’ve never had to do CPR.)

The cardiac code is then called and the patient’s family is ushered out of the room.

Doing CPR is very tiring, but the person performing it has to keep it up until the crash cart is rolled in and the defibrillator pads are placed.

Then the cardiac team arrives and the doctor orders personnel to defibrillate. If the patient’s heart doesn’t start the NA or RN resumes CPR while the doctor tells a team member trained in ACLS to push certain drugs through the patient’s IV port.

If the drugs don’t get the heart started, defibrillation is done again and the CPR is continued.

Sometimes the anesthesia team is called to intubate, or in laymen’s teams, place a tube down the patient’s throat to keep the airway open.

If the patient’s heart starts the code is ended for the time being. But the patient is not out of woods yet because…

Depending upon how bad the patient’s heart is, there may be more codes called. This is very disconcerting because the medical staff has to keep going knowing the patient is going to die.

That is when the patient’s family is brought in to watch a code in progress. This horrifies the family to see their loved one going through a code and say stop.

The patient is then deemed DNR and usually transferred to comfort care or hospice where they can die in peace and dignity.

And that why I have my advance directives.