I have never seen the benefits of being a kept woman.
Back in the day when I was a kid my mom was a housewife. Her day was filled with cooking, cleaning, and dealing with six kids and my dad. She was not allowed to spend money without my dad’s permission, was told what to do, and when to do it. If she disagreed with him, he hit her or verbally degraded her.
And because of what I saw as a kid, I made a resolution to never be a housewife, or what is now called a stay at home mom. I am too dependent and strong willed.
Hence, I have always worked and made my own money. I’ve never had to depend upon any man for my livelihood. Even when I had my son and daughter, I went back to work as soon as possible.
Over my lifetime, I had two men who said they would take care of me. They wanted me to quit my job so I would be there for them all the time. When I refused, they dumped me.
Of course, they had no problem finding women who complied with their demands.
Throughout my life I’ve had friends who were kept women. And like my mom, I heard how my friend’s husbands controlled the money, and how they couldn’t do this and that. Eventually, most of my friend’s divorced their husbands.
And even though women have celebrated advances in their independence, education, and careers… I’ve notice those same women will quit working to stay home with the kids or…
They don’t want to work but instead want to be home for their man. Oh please.
When I hear that I ask the woman ‘what if your man wanted you to work so he could stay home?’
“I would never be with a lazy man like that.”
Now of course, there will be the kept women out there who will argue I’m wrong. They will claim that their man lets them spend whatever money they want and that they get to do what they want.
Sorry, but whoever makes the money is the one in control. The women who claim the aforementioned are fooling themselves because their boyfriend or husband is allowing it. As soon as the woman no longer serves their man’s purpose, the money will be cut off.
That’s when the women end up calling a lawyer to get their fair share. Of course, the man knows how to hide his money and the battle is on.
But instead of continuing on with my opinions, I shall allow the kept women to think and be who they are… For in the end they will have to deal with what choices they have made.
Myself, I praise God and his spiritual team for giving me the wisdom I need to live the life I want.